There are a lot of things that I do not understand. Considerably so, I do understand that truly understanding is not always the key to understanding. Listening plays a major role in healthy relationships. Even if you do not understand what the other person means, you must understand that maybe the other person realizes that you will never understand, but wants you to show that you have the desire to understand, thus displaying that you truly care about them and what they have to say. I do not understand why men do not understand this. But I do understand that women indirectly try to make them understand without even realizing that they are not being direct. Men have a hard time admitting, and maybe even detecting their wrongs, and women want nothing more than for them to realize that they have done something wrong and apologize for it. Women want men to apologize, but they want them to have to figure out what they should be apologizing for on their own accord, with no help. Women can not simply just tell men what they have done wrong and tell them to apologize for it, because a forced apology holds no true remorse, thus men learn nothing from their mistakes. The first problem is: men have no idea that this is what women want and would much rather women just tell them what they did wrong so that they can apologize and avoid the whole, drawn out dilemma. The second problem is: with women, it does not work that way. It cannot just be easy. And I do not understand this, yet I cannot fix it within myself. Women are so discreet about what they honestly desire from men, and in turn men get condemned for not understanding. But I have come to realize that the not being able to understand one another is the reason that they keep being drawn back to the other. Men are always struggling to understand; women are always struggling to get men to understand. It is this never ending predicament that keeps us together.
And for once, if you do not understand what I am saying, it is okay, I do not expect you to, because I understand that it was more about me wanting you to listen rather than to understand.
"There's no man alive who can say that they honestly understand women and mean it. It just isn't possible, so there's no use trying. But that doesn't mean you can't love them anyway. And it doesn't mean you should ever stop doing your best to let women know how important they are to you."
Nicholas Sparks- The Wedding
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2 comments:
chelle. that was great. i completely understand where you are coming from. sometimes we just want someone there to listen to us & understand where we are coming from. a lot of times guys just dont know that they did something wrong because we girls tend to be a little cryptic with our 'true' feelings sometimes. :T it's a vicious cycle. in all reality though, you are right. both men and women are drawn to eachother as a result of this cycle.
i'm so glad that i was able to inspire you to create a blog (: it's such a great way to vent your feelings. keep up the great blogging (:
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i read and listened :)
keep blogging, chelle. i love your posts!
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